Today I had a realization while driving behind a big truck on the highway. The truck had a sign designed to keep me at a distance that read: If you can’t see my mirrors, then I can’t see you.
How People Treat You Is a Reflection
On the surface, this just seems like sound advice for preventing a collision. But I let it move deeper within me as a catalyst for thought and found it to be an incredibly applicable adage for dealing with the unconscious people in our lives.
Since the experiment I’m running says that reality is a mirror showing me something within myself, then everything I come into contact with is very similar to this big truck.
How people treat you is a reflection of themselves—and also a reflection of you.
Navigating Unconscious People
When someone doesn’t have their own personal awareness, I can easily navigate them by seeing them as a beautiful mirror to my own energy system and emotional state.
It’s easy to point at triggering people and blame them for our problems. But that’s just it: If we don’t see their mirrors—what they’re reflecting back to us about ourselves—then it becomes highly unlikely that they’ll have any awareness of how to show up in a way that feels satisfying for us.
The Blame Game
When we fail to see everyone and everything in our life as a mirror showing us our own energy system and emotional state, we start projecting onto others and playing the blame game.
Worse, we keep our distance from people who could desperately use our own personal awareness as a trigger into having their own awakening.
The Feedback Loop
If we could just find the resolve to look underneath the surface-level of all scenarios—and instead of projecting, feel what the event was designed to show us about ourselves—then our projection no longer has to be mirrored back to us by reality.
In projecting at others we create a feedback loop that then escalates our own projection so we can become aware of it by seeing it reflected back in another.
Not aware of what you’re projecting into the world? No problem. Just keep doing it and reality will amplify the projection back to you more and more. Until you’re aware of what’s there and move through it, reality will just render itself as a reflection of it in more and more grandiose ways.
They Start to See
When we stop projecting, let the mirror of reality show us what to feel, and then feel that feeling fully, a funny thing starts to happen. That unconscious person who couldn’t see the real us before now has the ability to see beyond our projections and shows up in a more satisfying way. They might even start having their own awareness about things.
Can you see the person in front of you’s mirrors? If not, I’ll suggest that they won’t be able to truly see you.
The power is always in your perception.
This is shadow work in action.
If you’re ready to see what reality is reflecting back to you, explore the Shadow Work practices.