Feeling Your Feelings: The Practice That Changes Everything

I see many people really engaged with the WHAT and hardly engaged at all with the WORK.

The details, for me, tend to get in the way of doing the actual emotional and energetic work. We read another book. We learn another framework. We discuss another theory. And somehow we never get around to actually feeling your feelings.

It’s easier to accumulate information than to sit with discomfort. I know because I’ve done it. Years of reading about transformation while avoiding the actual experience of it.

Theory vs. Practice

There’s a seduction in understanding. If I can name it, categorize it, trace its origin, maybe I don’t have to feel it.

But that’s not how it works.

I once heard an anecdote about giving toothbrushes as a gift to demonic entities in your dreams, hallucinations, and visions. The idea was to clean up their mouth (communication) and soften their image. It’s a fascinating detail. But it’s still just a detail.

If you’re already doing the emotional work, details like this can be interesting additions. But if you’re not doing the work, they become another way to avoid it. Another thing to learn instead of feel.

What Humility Actually Means

For me, humility is simply this: allowing yourself to fully experience and feel anything and everything which comes up in your life.

Not pushing it away. Not intellectualizing it. Not spiritually bypassing it with positive affirmations. Not telling yourself a story about why you shouldn’t feel what you’re feeling.

Just feeling it.

This sounds simple but it goes against everything we’re taught. We’re trained to manage emotions, control them, redirect them. Rarely are we taught to simply meet them where they are.

Why This Is Enough

When we do the full work of feeling your feelings, my sense is that all the details just take care of themselves.

The frameworks become unnecessary. The categories dissolve. The need to understand gives way to the willingness to experience. You stop trying to figure out the emotion and start letting it move through you.

This is the only work. Everything else is commentary.

I don’t say this to dismiss the value of learning. Knowledge has its place. But knowledge without feeling is just another way to stay in your head. And your head, left to itself, will find endless reasons to avoid the deeper work.

Starting Where You Are

The practice is simple but not easy. When something arises, feel it. Don’t analyze it yet. Don’t solve it yet. Just feel it.

Give it space. Give it your attention. Let it be what it is without needing it to be different.

This might take seconds or hours. The duration isn’t the point. The willingness is.

Most emotions, when fully felt, complete themselves. They arrive, they’re experienced, and they move on. It’s only the ones we resist that stick around, demanding to be heard.