The ego seeks to divide and separate. Spirit seeks to unify and heal. These are two fundamentally different operating systems, and only one of them leads to genuine connection.
If you’re trying to make someone else wrong, and I’ve definitely been guilty of this, then you’re part of the divide and conquer strategy. And that strategy makes finding genuine love almost impossible.
The 30,000 Foot View
Until we can operate from a place of higher perspective, until we can move into the balcony and look down at our life from that 30,000 foot view, we’re going to get caught up in the control narratives of the 3D environment.
These are the stories that tell us someone has to be wrong for us to be right. That love is scarce. That we have to protect ourselves from being hurt by judging others first.
But from the higher view, you can see something different. You can see that everyone is doing their best with the awareness they have. You can see that judgment is just fear in a costume.
The Pattern That Blocks Love
Here’s what I’ve noticed in myself: the moment I make someone wrong, I close my heart. It happens automatically. It feels like protection, but it’s actually isolation.
Finding love requires an open heart. And an open heart requires giving up the satisfaction of being right. These two things can’t coexist. You have to choose.
Most of us choose being right without even realizing we’re making a choice. It’s unconscious. It’s automatic. And it’s keeping us from the connection we actually want.
The Practice of Curiosity
We can expand our awareness beyond those control narratives by practicing something simple: genuine curiosity about everyone in our life.
Whether that person is sitting right in front of you or someone speaking on the news, you can be curious about the type of relief they’re seeking and why they think their strategies are going to bring it.
This isn’t about agreeing with them. It’s about understanding that they’re seeking relief from suffering, just like you are. Everyone is trying to feel better. Everyone is trying to be okay. The methods differ, but the motivation is universal.
What Opens Up
That curiosity can open you to ideas and creative inspiration, actions you could take that would serve the greater good, even those who don’t agree with you or who you don’t agree with.
Finding love starts with this willingness to stop making others wrong. Not because they’re right, but because the energy of judgment blocks the energy of connection. You can’t hold both at the same time.
When you stop needing others to be wrong, something shifts. Space opens up. The walls come down. And in that space, love has room to enter.
The Spiritual Truth
This is why every wisdom tradition points to the same thing: love your neighbor as yourself. Not because it’s morally superior, but because it’s how reality actually works. Separation is an illusion. What you do to others, you do to yourself.
Love isn’t found. It’s what’s left when you stop blocking it. It’s your natural state when the defenses come down.
This is the lens the Bible is meant to be read through.
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